CPS Blog: Supporting Yourself While Supporting Others
When you’re in the role of a ‘helper’, it’s easy to push your own needs aside to focus on whoever you’re helping. People who find meaning in supporting others tend to give and give and give, without making sure it’s sustainable. Whether you’re in a formal peer support relationship with someone or just talking a friend through a tough time, it’s important to take care of yourself too. Not only will it keep you happier - you’ll be better able to support others too.
Self-care practices are especially important during times of hardship and uncertainty. As we all deal with the stress of the COVID-19 crisis, everyone needs some extra support - including those who are used to being the supporters. It’s natural to feel anxiety, grief, worry, loneliness, and so much more during the current crisis we’re facing. Here are some ways to help yourself cope with these intense emotions:
- Take care of your body.
Physical health and mental health are deeply connected. Make sure you’re getting enough sleep, moving your body daily, eating nutritious foods, and staying hydrated. What else works for you? If you usually shower in the morning to perk up, stick to that even though you might have a more relaxed schedule right now. If intense cardio is more beneficial for you than yoga, don’t stop just because your gym is closed - find an at home workout video online.
- Connect with others.
Humans are inherently social animals. Making time to connect with other people is so important, especially when you’re spending a lot of time inside and missing out on many of your typical daily interactions. Hearing someone’s voice matters, so give your friend a call instead of texting to check in. Better yet, make it a video call and actually do something together, even if it’s just making dinner.
- Do things you enjoy.
Try to avoid spending your down time scrolling through social media or mindlessly watching TV. Think about what really fuels you and makes you happy. Art? Reading? Puzzles? Fill your time with those activities.
- Stay informed, but avoid too much exposure to news.
There’s a fine line between being aware of what’s going on in the world and getting completely overwhelmed by it. Let’s face it: a lot of mainstream news coverage right now isn’t good. Get the facts you need, and then turn it off.
- Seek help for yourself when you need it.
Having a really hard time with this? That’s okay - there’s nothing to be ashamed of. Reach out to your support system and let them know how you’re feeling. If you need some resources, check out Mental Health America’s COVID-19 Information & Resources page or take a mental health screen.
Remember - no one is invincible. Just like you’re supposed to put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others, you have to put your energy into your own well-being first. Your health and happiness matter just as much as anyone else’s!