MHA knows that when you live with a mental health condition, the unique challenges that come with that condition intersect with every part of your life. We are mapping out tips on how to navigate life’s intersections. Follow along with us as we travel through these topics:

  • Navigating friendships and social life
  • Navigating faith
  • Navigating family dynamics
  • Navigating barriers to treatment
  • Navigating the workplace
  • Navigating identity

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Navigating friendships & social life with a mental health condition

Friendships are an important part of wellness. People are significantly shaped by social environments and wired to seek out those connections. But making friends – and maintaining those relationships – can be a lot of work, especially if you have a mental health condition.

Some of the challenges you might face in your social life

  • Picking up social skills. Your mental health condition can make you feel like you missed out on learning all the social “rules” that others seem to already know. You might struggle to notice social cues or feel like no matter how hard you try, you just can’t connect with people. You may also be likely to overthink social interactions or deal with rejection sensitivity.
  • Feeling like a “bad friend.” Your mental health condition can make it difficult to consistently show up for people you care about. Maybe you need to cancel on a friend’s birthday because you can’t get out of bed, or aren’t able to support them through a breakup because you’re too anxious to talk to anyone. Sometimes taking care of your mental health means letting people down. While that’s okay (and at times necessary), it can be painful for you and the people you love.
  • Social exhaustion and burnout. Managing your mental health – or masking your symptoms – on a daily basis takes a lot of energy. Socializing on top of that can be exhausting. You might get overstimulated quickly in large groups or feel like you can’t keep up with the packed social calendar you want. It takes practice to learn how to balance your priorities and spend your time in a way that feels sustainable.

Tips for a healthy social life

  • Know yourself first. Think about who you are in friendships, both in and out of the context of your mental health condition. What are your specific triggers that come up in friendships? Are you likely to misunderstand something meant as a joke? If you’re aware of situations that can cause you to have a strong reaction, you might be able to recognize them as they arise. You can also prepare so that you can better manage your emotions in the moment – this can reduce your stress and even help you avoid conflict.
  • Communicate your needs. It can be scary to assert yourself, however, being honest about your needs is one of the best ways to avoid situations that could hurt your mental health. You don’t have to tell others about your diagnosis, but asking for support can build trust and a deeper bond. Most likely, your friends will be happy to support you.
  • Connect with the peer community. If you’ve felt uncomfortable in social settings, finding people who naturally understand some of the challenges you face and how you might operate can be a relief. Friendships with others with similar lived experiences often feel safer and can create supportive spaces to try out new skills.

Making and keeping healthy friendships can be hard – especially if one (or both) of you is dealing with a mental health condition. But social ties are one of the biggest factors in protecting your mental health. For more help with figuring out social challenges and your mental health, reach out to your local MHA affiliate.

More resources

Giving & receiving support in recovery

Lifestyle in recovery

Navigating faith with a mental health condition

Not everyone integrates faith into their lives, but roughly half of Americans identify as religious and 75% consider themselves spiritual. Faith often plays an important role in well-being – it offers individuals hope, purpose, and a community to lean on during difficult times. If you’re living with a mental health condition, your relationship with faith might change or get more complicated.

Some of the challenges you may face include

  • Questioning your higher power. Especially if you were raised religious or spiritual, developing the symptoms of a mental health condition can feel like a betrayal. You might start doubting your faith or believing that a higher power is angry or punishing you. This can turn into feelings of self-hatred, hopelessness, and isolation.
  • Feeling invalidated in your pain and struggle. Some faith communities view mental health conditions as something that can be cured through prayer alone. The shame of struggling or seeking professional help can be just as difficult as the symptoms themselves. You might be worried about others finding out, or feel judged or invalidated by their reactions.
  • Feeling pushed out of a community. Negative attitudes (stigma) against people with mental health conditions mean that some faith communities view mental health conditions as sins or a weak connection to faith. You may feel as though people in your community are distancing themselves from you at a time when you need them the most.

Tips for faith and mental wellness

  • Find a mental health professional that is willing to incorporate religious or spiritual approaches. Having a provider who understands how and why your faith impacts your mental health (or vice versa) can support you in faith-related challenges. They can also help you identify how spirituality can support your well-being. Many religious leaders also have some counseling training or can help connect you to relevant mental health resources.
  • Find the right faith community for you. Physical places like a mosque, church, synagogue, meditation center, or other place of worship are great spaces to connect with others, which is helpful in dealing with loneliness or depression. Keep in mind that communities, even of the same faith, vary in culture and personality. If the first place you try isn’t a good fit, keep trying to connect with some other faith-based spaces, events, or groups to find your people.
  • Have purposeful and quiet moments of prayer or meditation. Having a spiritual connection can encourage mindfulness and awareness of your thoughts, whether they are good or bad. Making time for purposeful moments of prayer or meditation can increase levels of serotonin, dopamine, and endorphins – also known as the body’s feel-good chemicals.

Ultimately, spirituality is very personal – no two faith experiences are the same, but all are valid. If you’re looking for more guidance on how your faith can support your mental health, reach out to your local MHA affiliate for support.

Additional resources

Take care of your spirit

Spirituality and religion

Culturally-based practices

Tying prayer to your mental health journey

Navigating family dynamics with a mental health condition

If you’re newly diagnosed with or experiencing symptoms of a mental health condition for the first time, you may feel like your whole world has changed. It takes time to learn how to live with a mental health condition – for you and the people close to you. Depending on your family structure, dynamics, and circumstances, living with a mental health condition can strain those relationships.

Some of the common family challenges you might face include

  • Feeling misunderstood by or disconnected from loved ones. You might think your family just doesn’t “get it” – and they probably don’t. The experience of having a mental health condition is unique, and your family members might be unsure of how to support you. Maybe they get awkward when the subject comes up or dismiss your struggles, leaving you feeling alone. These actions aren’t usually done to be mean; it’s often due to not understanding your mental health condition and how to handle the challenges that come with it.
  • Feeling fully responsible for family stress. While you are the one living with a mental health condition, it probably still impacts the people close to you. Maybe you feel guilty for relying on your family members for help dealing with panic attacks, getting to appointments, or paying for care. Or you wish you could stop your siblings from being so worried about your safety after a suicide attempt. Family relationships are complicated, and while your mental health condition may play a part in that, it’s just that – one part.
  • Balancing independence and accepting help. How much you rely on your family for help with your mental health is unique in every situation. It depends on a few factors like your age, symptoms, and pre-existing family relationships. Your family members can be an incredible source of support. But maintaining as much independence as you can in terms of managing your mental health condition will benefit everyone.

Tips for healthy family relationships

  • Help educate your family. The people who love you should want to learn about your mental health condition and how to support you, but it can be overwhelming to figure out where to start looking for information. If you’re open to it, talking about your experiences can help them understand you better. You can even share some of the coping skills you learn during your recovery process – after all, they need to manage their own mental health, too. Once families acknowledge the reality of your diagnosis, you can form true and healthy connections.
  • Set boundaries. You’re entitled to whatever boundaries you need to set for your own health. This might mean seeking help without your family knowing, avoiding certain triggers, or refusing their help if it feels like too much. Taking responsibility for your own mental health and making sure your needs are met is often empowering – and can lessen tension with family members.
  • Be patient. Living with a mental illness is hard, but so is seeing someone you love struggle with a diagnosis or symptoms. If your family relationships feel strained, they won’t necessarily feel that way forever. Some relationships are toxic and must be avoided, but others are repairable. With time and effort, hurt feelings can mend and misunderstandings about mental health conditions can be corrected.

Additional reading

How do I ask my friends or family for help?

Time to talk: Talking to your parents

Talking to adolescents and teens: Time to talk

Talking to adolescents and teens: What to do and where to go

Mental health resources for parents

Parenting with a mental health condition

Mental health resources for caregivers

When home life is hard – for adults

When home life is hard – for youth

Navigating finding care for—and with—a mental health condition

Taking care of your mental health is essential for everyone, especially people living with mental health conditions. Your treatment plan is unique to you – there’s no one-size-fits-all type of care. Unfortunately, the mental health care system can be confusing, and you might hit some roadblocks in your search for professional support.

Challenges you may face as you look for a treatment that meets your needs

  • Figuring out what kind of help to look for. Deciding to seek help for your mental health is a great first step, but knowing what to do next can be overwhelming. There are many different types of treatment and professionals. It might take some research to figure out what kind of care is right for you.
  • Scheduling with a new provider. Trying to book a first appointment can be frustrating – providers move to new locations, aren’t accepting new clients, or stop practicing entirely. Insurance companies and other directories don’t always update this information quickly. You might end up spending a lot of time and energy trying to find help when you’re already struggling, which can make you feel discouraged from seeking treatment at all.
  • Insurance and parity issues. There is a long history of health insurance plans not covering mental health and substance use treatment the same way they cover physical health services. From denying claims, to setting limits on how many times a person can be seen, to dropping an individual from a policy altogether – it isn’t always easy to find and maintain care. Many individuals pay out-of-pocket for services even when they have health insurance, or avoid care entirely.

Tips for finding care that meets your needs

  • Know your payment options. If you have health insurance, make sure you’re familiar with the basics of how insurance works and the specifics of your benefits/coverage. Local community organizations may offer free or low-cost services on a sliding scale based on an individual’s income. Or maybe a technology-based therapeutic service offered through a software application is best for you. You can also decide to pay for mental health services directly out of pocket with cash, credit, or through a pre-tax health spending account like an FSA or HSA.
  • Always have a care plan in place. Living with a mental health condition can be unpredictable. One of the most challenging things about getting better is that the things that can help often seem hard, especially when you’re struggling. Take advantage of the times you’re feeling well enough to get yourself organized. If your mental health condition flares up unexpectedly, you’ll be better prepared to get help.
  • Use your health insurance member benefits. Care coordinators are people who work for insurance companies and can actually schedule appointments for you. Call your member benefits line – the phone number should be on the back of your insurance card – and tell them that you would like their help setting up a first appointment with an in-network provider. They’ll handle the rest.
  • Be open to trial and error. Finding a mental health professional is kind of like dating – you might have to test out a few connections before you find the right fit. The most important thing is to get connected with someone who can provide care that feels safe and help you meet the goals you have set. You can ask your provider some questions to figure out if they’ll be a match:
    • Do you have experience with helping a person manage [your diagnosis, symptoms, or challenges]?
    • Do you have special certifications or areas of concentration that might be helpful for me?
    • Do you offer both individual and group therapy or can you refer to those who do?
    • Do you assign homework or specific to-do items to your clients?
  • Know your rights and advocate for yourself. Employers, educational institutions, and public spaces are not allowed to discriminate against persons with psychiatric disabilities – but you might have to remind them of this. If a mental health condition affects your daily functioning as a student or employee, it’s your right to request accommodations to help you perform to the best of your ability. Educational institutions that receive federal funding must comply with Section 504 of the 1973 Rehabilitation Act, which was recently reinforced by a 2019 court case involving Stanford University. For employees in companies with 15 or more employees, these accommodations are promised by the 1990 Americans with Disabilities Act.
  • Ask for a second opinion. There are a lot of new digital apps and prescription drugs being advertised online. It may be difficult to research them all and figure out what is best for you – comparing platforms or medications can be overwhelming, even when you’re feeling fine. Try starting a discussion with a person with lived experience who is further along in their recovery about whether they have tried some of these options. You can also join a peer group online through the Inspire network to learn about the experiences of others in similar situations who have tried online platforms or medication services. Even if their decision is not best for you, you’ll have some trusted folks to bounce ideas off.

Getting started with mental health treatment or finding new services can be difficult – logistically and emotionally. If you’re feeling lost about how to get help, reach out to your local MHA affiliate for resources and guidance.

Additional resources

BIPOC mental health

LGBTQ+ mental health

Intersecting identities

Empowering yourself & your community of color

Navigating dating with a mental health condition

Romantic relationships can be fulfilling and a great part of your mental health support system. But dating can take an emotional toll on anyone, and making new connections may feel even more complicated if you live with a mental health condition. You have to balance dating with not only your symptoms, but also the negative views some people have of mental health conditions. Know that mental health conditions do not need to put an end to your sex and love life.

Some of the challenges you may face with dating and intimate relationships

  • Deciding what, how, and when to tell the people you date. Healthy relationships can be a great support system. If you’re in it for the long haul, it’s probably worth letting your partner in on some of the details about your mental health. But sharing about your mental health condition can be scary, and telling people about it is up to you. It’s okay if it takes a while to develop the trust you need to open up – do this on your terms.
  • Feeling unworthy. Between mental health stigma and your symptoms, there might be times when you feel undeserving of love, sex, or partnership because of your diagnosis. Your mental health condition can also make it harder to cope with the frustrations of dating, like rejection, mind games, and miscommunication.
  • Trouble with sex and physical intimacy. Living with a mental health condition can impact your sex life in a few ways. You might deal with changes to your sex drive, struggle with self-esteem in the bedroom, or find physical intimacy triggering. Sex often plays a big role in compatibility, so it can be anxiety-inducing to think about dating if you have a complicated relationship with physical intimacy.
  • Risk of codependency. Codependency is an unhealthy relationship dynamic where one person takes on the role of “the giver” and is overly responsible for the other person, who feels extreme dependence on them. Living with a mental health condition can make you more likely to over-rely on your partner. Your partner might even initiate this by overstepping or being more involved with your care than you want. It’s a painful and harmful cycle on both ends that often allows for poor coping strategies and loss of independence.

Tips for healthy dating and intimacy

  • Know your intentions. Be clear on what you want from dating and what is realistic for you. This might mean prioritizing your mental health over your desires. Maybe you want a committed relationship but aren’t in the headspace to start something new right now, or you’re interested in casual sex but recognize it’s not a good idea given your attachment trauma. Knowing what you’re actually looking for can prevent unnecessary distress and ensure you aren’t spending time and energy on a connection that’s ultimately incompatible.
  • Practice healthy communication. Open communication is essential in any relationship, but especially when mental health challenges are involved. No one can read your mind. Being honest with a new partner about what you need to feel supported or the challenges you’re working through gives them the chance to show up for you and can build trust.
  • Remember that you’re responsible for your own mental health. It’s more than OK to seek support from someone you’re dating – but it’s also okay for them to say no. The level to which they feel comfortable supporting you likely depends on the seriousness of your relationship and how much they can realistically help in every situation – they can’t be your stand-in therapist. It can be easy to take this personally, but remember that people set boundaries in order to continue the relationship in a way that works for them. If that doesn’t work for you as well, it’s OK to exit the relationship.
  • Know what a healthy relationship looks like. Mental health conditions may complicate the early stages of dating, but they can also make it harder to recognize or get out of an unhealthy relationship. This is especially true if you’ve become dependent on your partner. However, it’s not always as easy as “trust your gut” when anxiety, paranoia, or intrusive thoughts are involved. Check out One Love’s 10 Signs of a Healthy Relationship for guidance, and seek advice from someone you trust if you’re unsure.

Dating comes with a lot of ups and downs – it can be hard for anyone to stay hopeful and confident. Your mental health condition might make some of the more challenging parts of dating even harder to cope with. It might feel impossible, but you’re worthy of the relationship and partner you want. For more guidance, connect with your local MHA affiliate.

Additional resources

Love milestones & roadblocks

Co-dependency

This campaign is supported by contributions from Janssen: Pharmaceutical Companies of Johnson & Johnson and Otsuka America Pharmaceutical, Inc.

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