When things feel overwhelming, isolating, or heavy, connection can be a lifeline. Whether it’s a close friend, a neighbor, a coworker, or a client, we care about the people in our communities and want to make sure they’re doing okay. Looking out for our communities can often start with a conversation. But how do you start it?
You don’t have to be a therapist to support someone. This resource is designed to help you check in with people in your community — both in person and by phone or text.
Checking with someone you haven't seen in a while
- You were on my mind, and I wanted to reach out.
- I’ve been thinking about you, and I want to check in.
- Hi, it’s been a minute. I wanted to make sure you’re doing okay.
- Long time no see! What’s been going on?
- I haven’t seen you in a while! How have you been?
- How are you? How’s the family doing?
Checking in with someone going through a hard time?
- How are you doing?
- How are you holding up since ____________?
- Hey, I’m just checking in. Please text/call me back when you get this.
- Hey, I heard about _________. Do you want to talk about it?
- Hey, I know there’s been a lot going on. I just want to make sure you’re good.
Checking in with a group of friends, teammates, or others
- Hey! How is everyone doing?
- Hey, is everyone doing alright?
- Hi everyone! Did you all see ____________? What are your thoughts about it?
- Hey, is anyone else feeling [sad/mad/exhausted] by ____________?
- Did anybody else hear about ____________? How are you dealing with it?
Taking a moment to check in on the people we care about is an act of community care. It matters — not just to you, but also to the people around you. In a world that can be chaotic, caring for each other gives everyone the strength to keep going.
